Monday, October 17, 2011

Thank You Toddlers & Tiaras

Last week I watched an episode of Toddlers & Tiaras with my 8 year.  I do not normally watch this show.  However, this time I did.  At the beginning of the show my daughter was excited and asked if we could do this.  I answered "NO!"  I asked her which is more important to God:  inside or outside beauty?  She replied inside.  I told her these people pay attention to only the outside beauty.  That they pay thousands of dollars on beauty treatments, wigs, fake teeth (flippers), spray tanning and clothes.  As I was telling her this, one of the girls was getting her new flipper.  I asked my daughter if she wanted one.  She replied "NO!"

Once the contestants arrived at the pageant, one of the moms started talking about spray tanning her 5 year old daughter.  She had been against it until she was told by the "tanner" that her daughter would not be competitive unless she did it.  She caved.  I asked my daughter if the little girl looked better before or after the tanning?  She answered before.  I asked her if she still wanted to do pageants.  She stated "NO!"  At that point I changed the channel and we watched Cake Wars.

This week Cindy at She Sparkles is calling a Fat Talk Free Week.  I feel that this is important  because I think as women we get caught up in how the world wants us to be versus what God wants us to be.  We buy into the lies and demean ourselves.  Many harm themselves striving to be what the world wants.  What we should be asking is what God wants.

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes.  Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3: 3-4 NIV84

God loves us just for us.  He longs for us and He only wants us to be humble.  To think of Him 1st and follow His commands.  To be completely surrendered to Him.  When we focus only on our outside appearances, we dishonour God by loving what the world loves and making our beauty our idols.  I am not saying you should not take care of yourself and let yourself go.  We also have to remember that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit (1Cor 6:19).  We just need to be aware when our taking care of those temples becomes an idol.

I am thankful for Toddlers and Tiaras because it has opened doors between my daughter and I regarding outward appearances and our hearts.  This is just the beginning but I know we have many battles yet to overcome.

I'm linking up with Jen at Finding Heaven with the Soli Deo Gloria Sisterhood today.


Jedidja said...

Thank you for your comment on my blog. I am very pleased with your blog this time. The way you have trying to reach the heart of your daughter is moving. I also have a daughter. She is eleven and it is sometimes difficult/hard. She looks to and compare with other girls. She's so beautifully made by God but yet ... the inside is more important. I can use your blog in education. Thank you. I don't know how late it is on the other side of the ocean, but I wish you a good Tuesday.

Jen said...

It's such a struggle to compete with the media sometimes, but I think you handled this so beautifully with your daughter, showing her how much better it is to be measured by Jesus and not the world.

Aurie{OurGoodLife} said...

Fantastic post! That show {and many more!} scare me that people are actually thinking this is ok. How wonderful that your daughter realized by herself that this was not okay!

Sherri said...

Wow Thank you for the link up to Cindy at SheSparkles. That post was really moving and so true. I love how you reached out to your daughter. We are going through challenges as well as I do not allow my 13 year old to wear make up on a regular basis while 99% of her friends are. This spring while we were driving we had a discusion about it and I asked her if she was upset about it. She told me no that she was beautiful without it.
I love it when God works like that in their lives. I am thrilled your daughter was also able to see that inside beauty is what really counts.

Rosann said...

Interesting...this is the first time I've heard of toddlers and tiaras. I'm so glad my toddler loves to just be herself...crazy out of control toddler curls and all. Sometimes I even feel bad taking her out in public without having combed her hair. I don't do that often, but every once in a while we are just in a huge hurry. It's often those days when people comment how adorable her curls are. God made all of us uniquely beautiful and special. What makes us think we can do a better job than He did when He created us? That doesn't stop me from primping...but it has kept me from getting the boob job I once longed for. Lol!

You have a beautiful family!


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